“Oh what we could be if we stopped carrying the remains of who we were.” —Tyler Knott Gregson
Sometimes I look back and can’t even recognize the person I was. Let’s just say that I’ve lost touch with many versions of myself along the way and I’m not upset about it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for every experience, good and bad, and those experiences are a part of me. They always will be, but I’m most grateful for my strength to let go, to lose touch from those versions of myself that were no longer serving me. I’ve come a long way and I still doubt myself more than I’d like sometimes, but when I start to go down that road of doubt and uncertainty, I remember how far I’ve come. I start to recall all the challenges I’ve faced, all the battles that I’ve won and all the fears that I’ve overcome and that makes it all worth it. I am now more than ever determined and inspired by my own story and my struggles and I want you to be too. Life isn’t so black and white but I’ve come to find that life becomes clearer when we make room for growth and drop anything that’s keeping us stuck. “Dropping the weight” literally and figuratively is by no means a walk in the park but what if we looked at it with different eyes, with new perspective and a new sense of ourselves? What if we started to become aware of who we actually are and what we need rather than what we think we need based off of comfort? Comfort is easy but it can also be a trap. We hang on longer than we should when we know we shouldn’t. We stick to the same routine, same behaviors, same beliefs without realizing the damage it’s causing, without realizing, there is a way out! I want you to check in quick and ask yourself if you feel stuck. Clear signs of feeling stuck are any uneasy emotion- anxiety, lack of clarity, fear, anger, and sadness. It’s basically an internal brawl, one of which can’t be won until YOU take action and make some changes within yourself and not outside yourself. A new job, a new significant other, a vacation, among other “things” are not the answer, however, new behaviors and new thoughts will start an internal shift.
“Acknowledging that some routines just don’t belong to us anymore is reincarnating.” —Unknown
Ever been in a dead-end relationship? An unfulfilling career? Ever try a diet and fail miserably and stop after the first week? I think we all have but there’s a way out. There’s a way to make things right, in whatever way “right” means to you.
You have to realize that you are so unique in all aspects of your life and should start to consider what’s actually good for you and more importantly, what hasn’t been good for you up until this point. What do you need and want for yourself and out of life? To really start moving forward, you have to try and let go of over analyzing why things aren’t going as you want them to and start moving closer to changing your current situation. Cut out blaming others, especially yourself.
“Don’t forget you’re human, it’s ok to have a meltdown. Just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.” —Unknown
When you are surrounded by negativity and unhealthy habits, the quickest fix sounds like the best solution but it’s not the most sustainable or personalized. You can’t jump on the first thing that crosses your path in hopes that it’s going to change your life and then get down on yourself when it doesn’t. Changing your perspective is key, so instead of seeing it as failure rather look at it as being re-routed to something better.
You don’t have to go all in or all out. Progress and change takes time so you have to give the time some time. Start by incorporating small consistent changes. You’ll notice how little steps can make all the difference as you stay consistent. As you start to crowd out all the things that weren’t doing anything for you, you’ll see that there simply won’t be any room for it and it will just become natural to live without them.
Life is too short to be anything but happy and though scary, I encourage you to feel the fear and drop the weight that’s been dragging you for way too long.
Letting go is one of the first steps to true happiness, right after awareness. It is extremely freeing and it is a choice. You always have a choice.
Let go or be dragged.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear. Are you ready for your life to truly begin? Comment below and share your thoughts, and as always, I’m here to support you. If interested, please sign up right here for a consultation.
Song of the day: Hey Jude