It’s been on my mind lately with the New Year around the corner. Who have I been this past year? Who do I want to be? Change starts by making a choice. You have two options. Will you be loyal to your future or your past?
Your future is whatever you want it to be. It is filled with unknowns and endless possibilities. It’s pure magic.
Your past has been defined. It cannot be changed. It has made you into who you are but you don’t have to keep dragging it with you. The past is there to teach you lessons, to remind you of amazing memories. It’s who you were. Every day you grow to be so much more. In order to feel truly fulfilled and live the life you want, you need to make the decision to be loyal to your future, not your past.
If you move forward in life and keep this in mind, your decisions become easier. You will start to ask “is this decision serving my past self or my future self?.” This is really powerful stuff.
You must start by understanding that you are in a relationship with yourself. Evaluate your level of commitment. If you wish to see change then you have to stop focusing on who you think you are and decide on who you want to be.
Are you ready to say I do?
Here’s the thing! When you think about relationships and love what comes to mind? Commitment, loyalty, support, comfort, fun, freedom, feeling alive, purpose, passion, excitement, compassion, understanding, acceptance.
I can keep going but you get the point. We seek these qualities and expect these in another but have you asked yourself if you possess them yourself?
I’ve done a lot of work within but it’s really a forever thing, like a marriage. I’m stuck with this gem forever so I decided to make it the best relationship I’ve ever had. I want you to do the same. If you want that happy ending, it’s start with you. Create a relationship that’s filled with love, understanding, acceptance, fun, compassion, trust, loyalty and commitment.
Take a second to analyze your relationships and the amount of energy you put into them and choose to put into them. I bet you’d drop anything for the ones you love to be there for them and take care of them. You offer support when they’re feeling down on themselves and you celebrate their wins with them. You offer positivity, new perspective and kind words all the time! If necessary, you give it to them straight in a way that’s loving and supportive because you care and want the best for them. You take care of them when they’re sick or just need a hug. When you set up a time to meet for coffee or dinner, you bet you show up. Together, you experience new things, fun things and I’m sure it’s freakin’ amazing.
But how are you when it comes to the relationship you have with yourself? Do you show up? Can you truly say that you take care of yourself from the inside out? How much do you trust yourself? Are you taking risks? Do you listen to your intuition and what your body and mind are telling you? Are you committed and holding yourself accountable daily? Are you compassionate with yourself when you’ve had a rough day? Do you offer yourself patience and understanding when you’ve made a mistake? Do you set aside time for you to get to know yourself again, to explore, experiment and create? How do you talk to yourself? Is it how you would a friend?
If not, TODAY’S YOUR BIG DAY!
LET’S RENEW YOUR VOWS!
Those disloyal days are over! You can no longer use the line “it’s not you, it’s me”. You have learned what you need to and you are ready for an amazing relationship. You are stronger and wiser. YOU ARE READY. Those days built better days, like today and your future. It;s time to re-commit and get you back into the honeymoon phase of your life, where you can’t help but want to be with and do everything for the one you love, YOU!
I get walking down that aisle may give you butterflies and instill some fear but now‘s the time to say “I do” and kiss yourself to the next amazingly awesome phase of your life. Will you commit to a life of loyalty and love?
When you are clear on where your loyalty lies, it makes it difficult for excuses and challenges to get in the way.
You are your biggest priority.
Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day. Celebrate and love yourself like you never have before and please, take yourself on a date!
Please share your comments below and let me know how you will be showing yourself some love!